If Allah is all you have , You have all you need.
I ask You to penetrate the deepest recesses of my heart with Your love and Your Light so that I may walk this path back to You and finish the journey in Your nearness.
I ask You to transform every wound and every scar I’ve gotten along the way into an opening for Light to enter, beautify, soften and guide my heart.”
Ya Hay ya Qayyum (Oh Ever Living, Oh Eternal), I ask You for a need within my heart that You know of.
Oh Allah, bestow on me relief soon, victory soon, oh Most Merciful.
Oh Allah, bless me with satisfaction and comfort.
Oh Allah, do not break my back with burdens, and do not make my needs hard to achieve.
Oh Allah, do not reveal what You have covered from my sins and do not expose my secrets.
Oh Allah, if I have disobeyed You publicly , I beg You to forgive me, and if I have disobeyed You secretly, I beg You to give me sitr (concealment).
Oh Allah, do not make my misfortune to be my religion, and do not make the Dunya (world) my biggest worry.
Ameen Ameen Ameen
I ask You to penetrate the deepest recesses of my heart with Your love and Your Light so that I may walk this path back to You and finish the journey in Your nearness.
I ask You to transform every wound and every scar I’ve gotten along the way into an opening for Light to enter, beautify, soften and guide my heart.”
Whatever it may be
The most important thing is to ….
have a GOOD Heart .
Imam Ahmed ibn Hanbal’s (rh) advice to his son on his wedding day:
Dear son, you will not attain good fortune in your home except by 10 characteristics which you show to your wife, so remember them and be enthusiastic in acting upon them.
As for the first two; women like attention and they like to be told clearly that they are loved. So don’t be stingy in expressing your love for your wife. If you become limited in expressing your love, you will create a barrier of harshness between you and her, and there will be a decrease in affection.
3, Ladies hate a strict, overcautious man, yet they seek to use the soft vulnerable one. So use each quality appropriately. This will be more appealing for love and it will bring you peace of mind.
4. Ladies like from their husbands what their husbands like from them, i.e. kind words, good looks, clean clothes and a pleasant odour. Therefore, always remain in that state.
5, Indeed, the house is under the sovereignty of the woman. While she remains therein, she feels that she is sitting upon her throne, and that she is the chief of the house . Stay clear of destroying this kingdom of hers and do not ever attempt to dethrone her, otherwise you will be trying to snatch her sovereignty. A king gets most angry at he who tries to strip him of his authority, even if he portrays to show something else.
6. A woman wants to love her husband, but at the same time she does not want to lose her family. So do not put yourself and her family in the same scale, because then her choice will be down to either you or her family. And even if she does choose you over her family, she will remain in anxiety, which will then turn into hatred towards you in your daily life.
7. Surely woman has been created from a curved rib, and this is the secret of her beauty, and the secret of the attraction towards her. And this is no defect in her, because ‘the eyebrows look beautiful due to them being curved’. So if she errs, do not rebuke her in a manner in which there is no gentleness, attempting to straighten her; otherwise you will simply break her and her breaking, is her divorce. At the same time do not let her off upon that mistake, otherwise her crookedness will increase and she will become arrogant with her ego. Thereafter, she will never soften for you and she won’t listen to you, so stay in between the two.
8. It is in the women’s nature to be ungrateful towards their husbands and to deny favours. If you were to be nice to her for her whole life but you grieved her once, she will say, “I have never seen any good from you”. So don’t let this attitude of her make you dislike her or to run away from her. If you dislike this feature of hers, you will be pleased with some other good habits within her, so create a balance.
9. Surely there are times when a woman goes through some conditions of bodily weakness and fatigue of the mind. Such that Allah has relieved her of some of her compulsory worships during that period; Allah has totally pardoned her from praying, and has postponed the days of fasting for her within this break to a later date until she regains her health and becomes normal in her temperament once more. Thus, during these days, treat her in a godly manner. Just as Allah has relieved her of the duties, you should also lessen your demands and instructions from her during those days.
10. Last but not least, know that a woman is like a captive with you. Therefore, have mercy upon her.
►Salah: Make sure you stick to praying on time – 5 times a day. Never miss a Salah and do your best to pray each Salah with sincerity as if it’s your last Salah in this world.
►Read Quran: This Quran is so beautiful that no matter what difficulties you face you’ll find solace in it.
►Make Dua: Especially the Dua for removing anxiety.
►Give Sadaqah.: Give lots of charity, as much as you can, because it helps push away hardship. And if you can’t give money, even kind words or physical sadaqah can do (i.e. helping people physically or emotionally).
►Set Goals and Have Vision: Don’t let shaytaan play with you and keep replaying the video of your hardship in your mind over and over again, move on! Set new goals, new projects, and remember you’re with Allah, nothing should stop you!
►Wake up Early: Wake up before Fajr and work on your ideas and projects, or simply read Qur’an. Getting busy before day break is a definite way to move away from your hardship and overcome challenges. Get most of your ideas/work done in these early hours, these are blessed hours.
►Hardship is Not Lost: Remember, Allah will never forget the injustice/hardship you faced, so don’t worry about seeking revenge or trying to get justice.
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